Small Steps for Self-Kindness

written by Angie Muscio
Peer Support Coordinator

September is a fresh month, and this year’s theme from Action for Happiness is Self-Care September.

Many of us find it easier to care for others than for ourselves—but self-care isn’t selfish. It’s about protecting your energy, building resilience, and finding ways to nourish your mind and body, especially when life feels heavy.

Why Self-Care Matters

When you live with mental health challenges, daily tasks can feel overwhelming. That’s why small, intentional acts of self-care can make a real difference. Self-care doesn’t need to be expensive or time-consuming—it’s about the little choices that help you feel more grounded, connected, and supported.Everyday Self-Care Ideas

Here are a few gentle suggestions inspired by the Action for Happiness Self-Care September calendar:

• Start your day slowly – take a few deep breaths before reaching for your phone.
• Notice something good – a flower on your walk, a smile, or even your favourite mug of tea.
• Take a rest break – give yourself permission to pause without guilt.

• Move in a way that feels good – a stretch, a walk, or dancing in your kitchen.
• Reach out for connection – call a friend, join a group, or talk to someone you trust.
• Practice kindness towards yourself – speak to yourself as you would to a friend.

Gentle Reminders

Self-care looks different for everyone. What helps you may not be what helps someone else.
Some days, self-care may simply mean getting out of bed or drinking some water—and that’s okay.
You are allowed to put your needs on the list too.

Resources for Support

• Action for Happiness – Self-Care September Calendar:
  Self Care September | Action for Happiness
• Local wellbeing or peer support groups. Remember to check out What’s On – East Surrey Community Connections to see all the latest groups and Workshops with Waythrough.
• Talking with a trusted friend, counsellor, or helpline when things feel tough. Redhill Safe Haven is based at Wingfield and is open every night of the year for those requiring support. More information can be found here.
  Safe Haven: Redhill : Surrey and Borders Partnership NHS Foundation Trust

Choose one small act of self-care for each day

This month, see if you can choose one small act of self-care each day.
Over time, these little steps build resilience, hope, and compassion—for yourself and others.